A Politically Incorrect Rant about Marriage Equality

The Supreme Court of the United States has been reviewing the constitutional validity of California's Proposition 8 for the better part of today.

Proposition 8 declared that only marriage between a man and woman was to be recognized and validated in the state of California. Just over half of voters in the state agreed to this definition of marriage. I was not one of them. 

I do not regret my decision to vote for the definition of marriage to remain between a man and a woman in the mere fact that my personal beliefs about biology, culture and religion stand behind this agreement. However, I do sincerely regret that I voted against the happiness of many who dwell in my state. And, at the core of it, my own beliefs are not honored in the state's definition of marriage as well.

I believe that marriage is a promise between man, wife and God, a life-long commitment and partnership between two people to uphold a set of ideals in a community, to unite in personal decisions, and to pass these ideas on to another generation - their children. 

What makes me regret my vote? My definition of marriage has nothing to do with the state. It has to do with community and interpersonal relationships, the keeping of vows, the raising of children. But not a bit of it has to do with the state of California or the Unites States of America. I see marriage as a personal decision to unite my life with someone else, and that the binding of that tie is the will of God. 

I fully believe in the separation of Church and State, and in that, I feel like the State should not have a definition of the word "marriage" as it pertains to personal and religious agreements. 

Unfortunately, what I want requires a redefinition of culture. The argument for marriage as an historical institution that honors the union between man and wife is valid up until people bring the word "love" into the argument. While Americans have been marrying "for love", marriage is truly a business, and the institution of it as a business is the real history of its millenia-long establishment. 

Women were not people; they were commodities that produced more commodities. Women were bought from their fathers and sold to other men to continue life as was known. A father got rid of his burden, giving her to another man who promised to take care of her in exchange that she properly service his needs. Marriage was not about love. It was about money.

That's not today, right? Hahahahaha! What's the number one reason people get divorced? What's on a single woman's criteria for a husband? Money. Marriage by law is honest to goodness about money. 

Separate marriage from money. Separate the Church from the state. Get rid of entitled bigots from either side. Make a vow genuine. Love truly.

Get the state out of my marriage, get the church out of the government.